Power of No by Kelly Orchard

07 Jan 2015 2:41 PM | Anonymous

As we contemplate what we want 2015 to be, we often begin with a New Year’s Resolution. Let’s begin here with the Power of NO. Say NO to a New Year’s Resolution and say YES to creating habits that will help you succeed this year.

One of the things I hear over and over again from clients who seek help, is that they don’t have time to do the things they enjoy, or make positive changes. They complain that they are just too busy, and yet they are still looking for the answer as to why their life isn’t as enjoyable or successful as they’d like it to be.

I found this blog and couldn’t have said it better myself. Honestly, you probably won’t like it, but here you go.

You probably aren’t as busy as you think you are!

Excerpt from a blog I found on “LifeHacker” published 4/14

Ever feel like you're overwhelmingly busy? Of course you have. We all do. But chances are, you might not be as busy as you thinkundefinedand knowing this simple fact can reduce a lot of stress.

It sounds sillyundefinedafter all, you'd think this "trick" would work with anythingundefinedbut there's something special about the way we claim business these days. We live in a cult of busy. And chances are, you're not actually as busy as you think.

Today, I’m not going to tell you to meditate, or take more vacations, or breathe, or walk in nature, or do anything that will invariably feel like just another item on the to-do list. The answer to feeling oppressively busy, is to stop telling yourself that you're oppressively busy, because the truth is that we are all much less busy than we think we are.

It helps to have this basic reminder: and the most important thing is that you stop telling yourself how busy you are. If your brain just refuses to accept that, there are things you can do to convince it, like logging your timeundefinedbut chances are a simple reassurance will help.

NO is the second most powerful word!

Saying “no” takes practice. It’s not about adding more to your “to do list”, it’s about knowing the things that it’s okay to say no to.

But first, we need to understand the reasons we say “yes” to so much. Are we seeking approval? Do we want to be liked, are we afraid we’ll miss out on something?

Our personal psychology affects the decisions we make. But it doesn’t have to be a trap. Once we learn and accept why we are saying “yes” so much or why we don’t say “no” enough, we can start practicing, setting boundaries and create a healthier balance in our lives.

I believe that there is no such thing as “work/life balance”. It’s ALL life. We are the sum of all of our activities.

Depression and anxiety affects one quarter of our population. Most people who are suffering from depression and anxiety don’t seek treatment for it, and therefore continue on through their life wondering “is this all there is?”

I’m thrilled and honored to be presenting this topic for the [Alliance for Women In Media, SoCal] event happening later this month. It’s a great way to begin 2015, and is in line with the goals I set for myself for the year.

I hope that you’ll say “YES” to learning that ‘NO’ is the second most powerful word, and that saying “No” can have a positive impact on your life and help you achieve a successful balance.

I’d love to connect with you! Click any of the links below and let’s grow together!

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Kelly Orchard, M.A., LMFT



Board Member for Alliance for Women In Media Southern California

2015 President & Public Relations and Media Chair for Southwest Riverside Chapter/

California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists

American Heart Association 2015 Temecula Heart Walk Executive Leadership Team Member

Public Relations and Marketing Chair for Women’s Peer Connection/Temecula Valley

Nominated by Temecula Chamber of Commerce for 2014 Citizen of the Year

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